D-A-T-I-N-G

Quite a common word used nowadays, a word that was considered ‘Haram’ in many places of India and is still considered to be so in orthodox families. I wonder why every culture in India was westernized in my generation but this one alone was Indianized.  

Definition: The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time. The most common idea is two people trying out a relationship and exploring whether they are compatible by going out together in public as a couple who may or may not yet be having sexual relations. This period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to engagement or marriage.

Above mentioned is the Wikipedia definition whereas In India,  there are some extra fittings to this definition which is again subjective to opinions. So the most common ideas does not fit well here. India is a country which enjoys variance from its language to tradition to food to culture in every state hence Dating also has few regular and modern traditions to follow in different parts of India.

 It is a sin when a guy dates an elderly woman. Our society isn't ready for woman to do what men have done for millennium.  Why is it, that people in India are so conservative? Who laid the list of do's and dont's ? 

Democratic nation guys! We got voice to opinion-ate terms (wink)

Abhishek Bachchan and Sachin Tendulkar found it easy to strike the cord in our society but what about commoners. I know many who secretly find  it cool to go out with younger men but why do they find it really difficult to declare their relationship in public?

The Society we live in likes to believe that a woman cannot survive alone and need a man to support/care. I think its the opposite in reality. But apparently  people think women are supposed to be under men in every way, I myself have heard men saying "I know how to keep her under my control". Men choose women younger to them to feed their ego. Men always find it appealing to themselves when they become a window to the vistas for a woman who lived in a Repenzul hut without knowing any wonders of the outside world. But I do appreciate when there are exceptions. One of my Indian friend who is in a relationship with an English woman who is elder to him says, “It has been an extremely rewarding experience where we make the most of our differences, be it her greater experience or my youthful exuberance. We are also of different races, countries and religions, but the difference that raises brows is the age gap.”

So I think it is time for us to be practical. Let us welcome our friends with love and support  without being indifferent towards the new theme.

Age is just a number after all. Experience in life counts and not how many years went by after you took birth on this planet. Chemistry between two people is determined by factors like their attitude towards life and much more things better than numbers (age). Age difference is just another way of racism in my opinion. Love is more philosophical where we say, "Soul mates are destined to be together even before they were born." 

So merely the admiration being a bottom-line, relationships are all about how you want to be treated by your partner for the rest of your life. Its all about mixing together of tastes and preferences over everything in life and how well you get along. C'mon guys relationships are not Michelin to see who dominates.

Women and Men both are created by the same God with same number of features and organs except the genitals. According to which I think woman is above men being given the privilege to bear a child, in other words she can have one body and two souls at the same time during pregnancy. (wink) So that proves men have no upper hand. We got to change the way we look at things that are always meant to be manly or womanish. Please don’t think that am encouraging people to live against the law of nature. Certain physical things are beyond our reach but mental blockages can be altered. We can and we should come out of the cocoon of traditional blackmailing.